Turn that whine into wine

I’m going to try to spend a week, one short, lousy week, NOT being negative. I don’t mean about everything, that would kill me — though if I managed it, I think it would qualify me as the Dalai Lama’s successor, too — just about games. Hell, just about WAR.

When I crash to desktop, I shall smile. When some wanker with too much scrap metal and a large sword smashes my face in, I shall thank him for the personal attention. When 4 of my T1 team-mates clog up the Nordenwatch bridge so we all end up pulped, I’ll treat it as a learning experience (I hope they bloody learned not to do that!). When the UI yet again fails to do what it’s supposed to do (like keep my chat windows where I put them and let me move things around my bags without constantly dropping them off the mouse pointer), I will realise that we’re all just human.

Well okay, maybe not, but I *will* try really hard not to bitch and moan about it. Mainly I’ll try not to bitch about it out loud (or Vent, or Guild chat or whatever), but I will actually try not to let myself be so bothered by it.

As a usually calm and collected friend pointed out to me, there’s only so much negativity one can take before all the positive people (who are also only human) have had enough and blow a gasket. Besides, it’s part of managing one’s expectations. I don’t expect WAR to be perfect, and to log in expecting the UI bits and other stuff that bothers me to be fixed from one second to the next, when I know there hasn’t been a patch, is just unrealistic. Unrealistic expectations are a waste of time and — topic of the week elsewhere — a waste of fun.

Try it. From today to next Friday. I will, because I want to see if, like expectations, managing my negativity can impact my game experience; actually I know it can, because I’ve done it before. It’ll be nice to have some uncomplicated fun again.

5 thoughts on “Turn that whine into wine

  1. well Ysh, seems I had an epic fail in that regard this weekend… 🙁

    101 was kinda fun for a few days.

  2. It was your epic fail that prompted this, actually — when someone who is normally so calm and positive has a meltdown, one has to wonder if there’s not a wider issue.

    MMO gamers are HUGE whiners, or maybe humanity as a whole is whiny. It pays now and then to step back from that, especially since it’s contagious.

    Not bashing you one bit — trying to be supportive, actually (however well it may be working). We all have bad days/weeks/years; don’t take it too hard. You *did* kind of sound a wake-up call, so it wasn’t all bad.

  3. Quite frankly, I am a bit ashamed at getting angry at all. There are several things that have been festering lately and for some reason I let this trigger a release. My concerns with the environment should have been handled in more diplomatic way but for some reason something took the safety off and the trigger was pulled. No one and nothing else to blame save for myself as I am the one who controlls how to perceive and react to things. I will have to be a bit more vigilant and simply remove the agitant or alter perception to quite simply make it irrelevant. Maybe going to a Buddhist session around the block will help to recenter 🙂

    Thanks for the advice and putting forth the effort to reach out and try to get me back on track!

  4. Buddhist session is win. At least I assume so, and I’m eminently qualified to assume — I have read (one of) the Dalai Lama’s autobiography, and damned good it was too, and I do tai chi.

    Clearly I am just a smidge away from total Zen.

    In the meantime, I will continue to get unreasoningly furious at just about everything for the next few days — I just won’t BITCH about it. 😉

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